I came across this blog post today. It was so refreshing to read this...
"I know those people mean well, and it is true that God has blessed
Alyosha with a loving family. But something in those phrases negates
the fact that we are blessed by him.
Like we are just a couple of long-suffering saints who are raising the
orphan because we're so pious. Like he doesn't have to put up with our junk, sins, imperfections, every day. Gag.
middlewoman-mom-daughter at Panera hit the nail on the head. Our son
is a blessing, and we are the humble and grateful recipients. We hope
to be a blessing to him too- but because that's how families work, not
because we are superheros."
Chad and I have been talking about comments that are already being made and our kids aren't here yet. We know that everyone is well-meaning, and I know for a fact I have said some of the same exact things that make me cringe now. I've become more aware of how adoption, children, and adoptive parents are perceived lately...and the comments that come along with those perceptions. I've been trying to put myself in my children's shoes...adopted and biological...and realizing how certain comments might make them feel. Like when people say they don't know how we do it, two kids is enough for them, those are some lucky kids, etc...I can imagine that it might make our kids feel like a burden. I'm sure as they get older those comments will be frustrating or annoying. For me...it's uncomfortable. As a mom, I struggle on a daily basis. I've brought my kids to tears. I've failed them time and again. I will continue to do that. But, hopefully, by God's grace, we have a loving family where we are growing in Him daily, loving each other the best we can, and striving to serve Him with our whole hearts. Like this mother says...I want to be a blessing to my children...desperately...because I love them so much. And I can only do that because God loves me so much! Honestly, I don't know what I'd do without my kids..all four of them....and 2 aren't even here yet. They are a huge blessing to us and I want them to always know that. They are a gift and they are treasured! I just pray that others will see that about them and speak that into their lives.